{"id":483,"date":"2019-10-07T10:15:54","date_gmt":"2019-10-07T08:15:54","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.wittylife.pl\/?p=483"},"modified":"2019-10-24T13:15:38","modified_gmt":"2019-10-24T11:15:38","slug":"dlaczego-odtwarzamy-schematy-z-dziecinstwa","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.wittylife.pl\/?p=483","title":{"rendered":"Dlaczego odtwarzamy schematy z dzieci\u0144stwa?"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

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Schemat jest tym, co znamy<\/strong>.<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

Lepsze z\u0142o znane ni\u017c nieznane<\/em>. W pewien spos\u00f3b to co znane jest wygodne. Poza tym tak naprawd\u0119 nie mamy niczego innego<\/strong>. Mamy tylko to co zosta\u0142o nam dane. W skrajnych przypadkach destrukcyjne programy s\u0105 jedynymi, kt\u00f3re nam zaszczepiono. O innym (my\u015blowym) \u015bwiecie nie mamy poj\u0119cia. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Przyk\u0142ad znanej melodii: 
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Je\u015bli w naszej g\u0142owie s\u0142yszymy raczej to: <\/h4>\n\n\n\n

Skoro skupiam na sobie wzrok ca\u0142ej grupy, to co\u015b musi by\u0107 ze mn\u0105 nie tak. Jestem pewnie nieuczesany… a mo\u017ce… ju\u017c wiem! Ubra\u0142em si\u0119 nieodpowiednio. Tak, to na pewno to. Wszyscy tutaj przecie\u017c maj\u0105 smokingi, tylko ja jeden, jak g\u0142upi, przyszed\u0142em w garniturze.<\/em> <\/p>\n\n\n\n

To tego raczej nie us\u0142yszymy: <\/h4>\n\n\n\n

O, patrz\u0105 na mnie. Ciekawe dlaczego, mo\u017ce chc\u0105 do mnie zagada\u0107? Ciekawe co to za ludzie. Mi\u0142o z ich strony, <\/em>zwr\u00f3cili na mnie uwag\u0119!<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Schemat by\u0107 mo\u017ce kiedy\u015b dzia\u0142a\u0142.  <\/strong><\/h3>\n\n\n\n

A przynajmniej by\u0142 najlepszym rozwi\u0105zaniem na dany moment.<\/strong> Je\u015bli rodzice zwracali uwag\u0119 na Ciebie tylko wtedy kiedy przynosi\u0142e\u015b pi\u0105tk\u0119 to naturalne jest, \u017ce przynoszenie pi\u0105tek realizowa\u0142o na tamten moment wa\u017cn\u0105 dla Ciebie potrzeb\u0119. (Potrzeb\u0119 kontaktu z innymi\/ Potrzeb\u0119 poczucia w\u0142asnej warto\u015bci). I tak ca\u0142e \u017cycie tym samym sposobem pr\u00f3bujesz zrealizowa\u0107 tak naprawd\u0119 nigdy niezaspakajalne pragnienie.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Schemat jest przymusowo odtwarzany.  <\/strong><\/h3>\n\n\n\n

Odtwarzamy znany scenariusz licz\u0105c na inne zako\u0144czenie. Na odczarowanie przesz\u0142o\u015bci<\/strong>. C\u00f3rka alkoholika wi\u0105\u017ce si\u0119 z partnerem uzale\u017cnionym od alkoholu, \u017ceby tym razem by\u0142o inaczej. \u017beby tym razem w miejsce pustki i odrzucenia poczu\u0107 mi\u0142o\u015b\u0107 i akceptacj\u0119. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Podsumowuj\u0105c:<\/strong><\/h3>\n\n\n\n

W dzieci\u0144stwie schemat by\u0142 nasz\u0105 jedyn\u0105 broni\u0119. D\u017awigamy t\u0119 ci\u0119\u017ck\u0105 maczug\u0119, tak naprawd\u0119 nie wiadomo po co. Mamuta ju\u017c nie ma. Nic ju\u017c nam nie grozi. Ju\u017c nie jeste\u015bmy dzie\u0107mi. Ju\u017c nie musimy z nikim o nic walczy\u0107. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Bibliografia:<\/p>\n\n\n\n

  1. Jeffrey E. Young, Janet S. Klosko, Program zmiany sposobu \u017cycia. Uwalnianie si\u0119 z pu\u0142apek psychologicznych<\/em>, Warszawa 2012
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