{"id":1283,"date":"2019-11-08T13:04:04","date_gmt":"2019-11-08T12:04:04","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.wittylife.pl\/?p=1283"},"modified":"2019-12-18T10:37:20","modified_gmt":"2019-12-18T09:37:20","slug":"dlaczego-tak-czesto-jestesmy-nieszczesliwi-czyli-rzecz-o-docenianiu-tego-co-mamy","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.wittylife.pl\/?p=1283","title":{"rendered":"Dlaczego tak cz\u0119sto jeste\u015bmy nieszcz\u0119\u015bliwi? Czyli rzecz o docenianiu tego co mamy."},"content":{"rendered":"\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><strong>Czy warto by\u0107 wdzi\u0119cznym?<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>B\u0105d\u017a wdzi\u0119czny a b\u0119dzie Ci dane. Taki przekaz coraz cz\u0119\u015bciej atakuje nas zewsz\u0105d. Jak nie umiesz to prowad\u017a dziennik wdzi\u0119czno\u015bci. Bo jak nie to b\u00f3j si\u0119 Boga, wszech\u015bwiat odp\u0142aci Ci pi\u0119knym za nadobne. I tym sposobem zatoczyli\u015bmy niejako ko\u0142o &#8211; od srogiego starotestamentowego Jahwe do nowego niby daj\u0105cego to co tylko nam si\u0119 zamarzy (<em>Je\u015bli wystarczaj\u0105co mocno czego\u015b chcesz ca\u0142y wszech\u015bwiat Ci sprzyja) <\/em>uniwersum. Ale jednak rz\u0105dz\u0105cego si\u0119 swoimi prawami, kt\u00f3rych nie daj Bo\u017ce z\u0142ama\u0107. Czy przypadkiem rozwojowo nie wpadli\u015bmy z deszczu pod rynn\u0119?\u00a0<br><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Znowu kombinujemy, czasami jak ko\u0144 pod g\u00f3r\u0119, jak tu nie narazi\u0107 si\u0119 prawu przyci\u0105ganiu. Mog\u0119 nawet przesta\u0107 chcie\u0107. Prosz\u0119 bardzo! Byle bym tylko dosta\u0142 to co chc\u0119! I tak chodzimy i pytamy wszystkich dost\u0119pnych guru &#8211; jak przesta\u0107 chcie\u0107?<br><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Zakrawa to na absurd. Mylimy skutek z przyczyn\u0105.&nbsp;<br><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Jednak dzisiaj wpis nie o tym, jak co\u015b od kogo\u015b wyszarpa\u0107. Tylko o tym, \u017ce faktycznie mamy za co by\u0107 wdzi\u0119czni. Po prostu tego nie dostrzegamy. Gra toczy si\u0119 o nasze samopoczucie tu i teraz. Nie o co\u015b co by\u0107 mo\u017ce \u201cprzyci\u0105gniemy\u201d pe\u0142n\u0105 wdzi\u0119czno\u015bci postaw\u0105.\u00a0<br><\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><strong>Dlaczego tak trudno by\u0107 wdzi\u0119cznym?<br><\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>Wdzi\u0119czno\u015b\u0107 odnosi si\u0119 do tego co posiadamy. W przeciwie\u0144stwie do zorientowanych na przysz\u0142o\u015b\u0107 pragnie\u0144, wzbudzanych przez zwierz\u0119c\u0105 cz\u0119\u015b\u0107 naszej natury,  a konkretnie przez dopamin\u0119 &#8211; neuroprzeka\u017anik odpowiedzialny za motywacj\u0119 do dzia\u0142ania. Gdyby nasz odleg\u0142y, zamieszkuj\u0105cy sawann\u0119 przodek po\u015bwi\u0119ci\u0142 \u017cycie na trwanie w nirwanie za d\u0142ugo by nie po\u017cy\u0142. Znaczna cz\u0119\u015b\u0107 prehistorycznej uwagi cz\u0142owieka&nbsp; musia\u0142a by\u0107 skoncentrowana na jak najlepszym skanowaniu otoczenia, w celu znalezienia jak najwi\u0119kszych ilo\u015bci zasob\u00f3w.<br><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Ale te czasy ju\u017c min\u0119\u0142y. Ju\u017c nie grozi nam \u015bmier\u0107 g\u0142odowa ( w wi\u0119kszo\u015bci szeroko\u015bci geograficznych), ani \u017caden dziki zwierz na nas nie czyha. <strong>Zdobycze technologiczne pozwoli\u0142y cz\u0142owiekowi przesta\u0107 ba\u0107 si\u0119 o swoje \u017cycie. <\/strong>Jednak paradoksalnie boimy si\u0119 coraz wi\u0119cej. Stare strachy zast\u0105pi\u0142y nowe. Ju\u017c nie straszny nam dziki zwierz a to, \u017ce ilo\u015b\u0107 like`\u00f3w spada, samoch\u00f3d jest nie tak szybki jak ten s\u0105siada, a nowe seriale nie wystarczaj\u0105co ekscytuj\u0105ce.&nbsp;<br><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>W kt\u00f3rym\u015b momencie warto powiedzie\u0107 sobie stop.<\/strong> Bardzo cz\u0119sto chcemy co\u015b tylko dlatego, \u017ce maj\u0105 to inni. Nikt przy zdrowych zmys\u0142ach nie b\u0119dzie rozpacza\u0142 dlatego, \u017ce nie potrafi lata\u0107. A wyobra\u017amy sobie tak\u0105 oto hipotetyczn\u0105 sytuacj\u0119: wszyscy naoko\u0142o posiedli t\u0119 magiczn\u0105 umiej\u0119tno\u015b\u0107 tylko Ty jeden nie. Pow\u00f3d do rozpaczy gotowy. Inny przyk\u0142ad. Powiedzmy, \u017ce jeste\u015b studentem, masz lat 22, mieszkasz w akademiku a szczyt kulinarnego szale\u0144stwa na jaki mo\u017cesz sobie pozwoli\u0107 to makaron z sosem bolognese. I wszystko jest w porz\u0105dku, wi\u0119kszo\u015b\u0107 Twoich znajomych jedzie na tym samym w\u00f3zku. Sprawa si\u0119 komplikuje gdy status materialny znajomych si\u0119 zmienia a Tw\u00f3j nie. Sytuacja identyczna, makaron identyczny a jako\u015b tak smutniej. To w og\u00f3le nie wa\u017cne, \u017ce masz co je\u015b\u0107, i gdzie mieszkasz. Wa\u017cne, \u017ce inni maj\u0105 lepiej. I owszem mo\u017cemy non-stop por\u00f3wnywa\u0107 si\u0119 z innym, i szuka\u0107 sposob\u00f3w jak im dor\u00f3wna\u0107,<strong> albo mo\u017cemy u\u0142atwi\u0107 sobie \u017cycie i (troch\u0119 wbrew biologicznej potrzebie ci\u0105g\u0142ego pragnienia) przekierowa\u0107 uwag\u0119 na to co (dobrego) jest nam dost\u0119pne ju\u017c tu i teraz.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Bibliografia: <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>1.Daniel Z. Liberman, Michael E, Long, <em>M\u00f3zg chce wi\u0119cej. Dopamina, naturalny dopalacz.<\/em> \u0141\u00f3d\u017a 2019.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><br><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Czy warto by\u0107 wdzi\u0119cznym? B\u0105d\u017a wdzi\u0119czny a b\u0119dzie Ci dane. Taki przekaz coraz cz\u0119\u015bciej atakuje nas zewsz\u0105d. Jak nie umiesz [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":1284,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"om_disable_all_campaigns":false,"_uag_custom_page_level_css":"","_monsterinsights_skip_tracking":false,"_monsterinsights_sitenote_active":false,"_monsterinsights_sitenote_note":"","_monsterinsights_sitenote_category":0,"site-sidebar-layout":"default","site-content-layout":"","ast-site-content-layout":"default","site-content-style":"default","site-sidebar-style":"default","ast-global-header-display":"","ast-banner-title-visibility":"","ast-main-header-display":"","ast-hfb-above-header-display":"","ast-hfb-below-header-display":"","ast-hfb-mobile-header-display":"","site-post-title":"","ast-breadcrumbs-content":"","ast-featured-img":"","footer-sml-layout":"","ast-disable-related-posts":"","theme-transparent-header-meta":"","adv-header-id-meta":"","stick-header-meta":"","header-above-stick-meta":"","header-main-stick-meta":"","header-below-stick-meta":"","astra-migrate-meta-layouts":"default","ast-page-background-enabled":"default","ast-page-background-meta":{"desktop":{"background-color":"var(--ast-global-color-4)","background-image":"","background-repeat":"repeat","background-position":"center center","background-size":"auto","background-attachment":"scroll","background-type":"","background-media":"","overlay-type":"","overlay-color":"","overlay-opacity":"","overlay-gradient":""},"tablet":{"background-color":"","background-image":"","background-repeat":"repeat","background-position":"center center","background-size":"auto","background-attachment":"scroll","background-type":"","background-media":"","overlay-type":"","overlay-color":"","overlay-opacity":"","overlay-gradient":""},"mobile":{"background-color":"","background-image":"","background-repeat":"repeat","background-position":"center center","background-size":"auto","background-attachment":"scroll","background-type":"","background-media":"","overlay-type":"","overlay-color":"","overlay-opacity":"","overlay-gradient":""}},"ast-content-background-meta":{"desktop":{"background-color":"var(--ast-global-color-5)","background-image":"","background-repeat":"repeat","background-position":"center center","background-size":"auto","background-attachment":"scroll","background-type":"","background-media":"","overlay-type":"","overlay-color":"","overlay-opacity":"","overlay-gradient":""},"tablet":{"background-color":"var(--ast-global-color-5)","background-image":"","background-repeat":"repeat","background-position":"center center","background-size":"auto","background-attachment":"scroll","background-type":"","background-media":"","overlay-type":"","overlay-color":"","overlay-opacity":"","overlay-gradient":""},"mobile":{"background-color":"var(--ast-global-color-5)","background-image":"","background-repeat":"repeat","background-position":"center center","background-size":"auto","background-attachment":"scroll","background-type":"","background-media":"","overlay-type":"","overlay-color":"","overlay-opacity":"","overlay-gradient":""}},"footnotes":""},"categories":[19],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-1283","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-swiadomosc-2"],"uagb_featured_image_src":{"full":["https:\/\/www.wittylife.pl\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/11\/pro-church-media-p2OQW69vXP4-unsplash.jpg",5409,3358,false],"thumbnail":["https:\/\/www.wittylife.pl\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/11\/pro-church-media-p2OQW69vXP4-unsplash-150x150.jpg",150,150,true],"medium":["https:\/\/www.wittylife.pl\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/11\/pro-church-media-p2OQW69vXP4-unsplash-300x186.jpg",300,186,true],"medium_large":["https:\/\/www.wittylife.pl\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/11\/pro-church-media-p2OQW69vXP4-unsplash-768x477.jpg",768,477,true],"large":["https:\/\/www.wittylife.pl\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/11\/pro-church-media-p2OQW69vXP4-unsplash-1024x636.jpg",1024,636,true],"1536x1536":["https:\/\/www.wittylife.pl\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/11\/pro-church-media-p2OQW69vXP4-unsplash.jpg",1536,954,false],"2048x2048":["https:\/\/www.wittylife.pl\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/11\/pro-church-media-p2OQW69vXP4-unsplash.jpg",2048,1271,false],"form-edit-image-preview":["https:\/\/www.wittylife.pl\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/11\/pro-church-media-p2OQW69vXP4-unsplash.jpg",187,116,false]},"uagb_author_info":{"display_name":"Witty Life","author_link":"https:\/\/www.wittylife.pl\/?author=1"},"uagb_comment_info":0,"uagb_excerpt":"Czy warto by\u0107 wdzi\u0119cznym? 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